Q&A: How Do You Handle Writing Through Pain?
Does it change everything? Is it even something you can do?
Hi, Everlastings, I haven’t done a Q&A in a while, and I’m really interested in your answers here. You know I’m a new widow. I won’t dwell on it except to say I’m overwhelmed but adjusting, and it’s like learning all over again how to get on with the ordinariness of daily living.
When I sit down to write, I can’t get away from writing about my pain, about my circumstance. I don’t want to do that, but it’s uppermost in my mind, and whatever I do to remove it isn’t enough. It always comes back to me. This is something I’ve avoided all of my writing life. I try not to get too personal, even though I read plenty of personal stories written by others. It’s just not me, and I’m uncomfortable doing it.
It hasn’t been quite a month yet, so maybe I’m expecting too much. Maybe I haven’t taken a long enough break. Maybe I’m not supposed to be writing yet. But writing is my thing—my passion, my solace, my everything.
I missed being here.
So here I am, tiptoeing back in by asking a question. How do you write through your pain? Do you meet it head on and lock horns with it? Do you pretend to ignore it? Or do you find ways to incorporate it without making your readers feel like they have to become a part of it?
It doesn’t have to be grief; it can be any kind of pain—physical illness or ailments, loss of a job, a break-up, an insult, a personal failure, the trauma of Ukraine and the world today. Can you write about anything else while it lurks around you? Does it ever go away?
Let’s talk. Comments are open. And you know you’re always safe here.
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